1623626_10204371363345740_1115179111402393681_nSol Mendez, the Coordinator of the Gender Equity Center at South Seattle College, contacted me a few weeks ago about offering a workshop. I had met Sol a while back and knew right away anything we did together would be pretty juicy. My answer was simple: “When?”

The following week, Lupe Valtierra and I headed to South Seattle to meet with Sol and her amazing student commissioners. I could feel the magic in the space immediately. We sat together. We shared details about ourselves. We focused on what we hoped to accomplish together. Ideas went back and forth. Eventually, it became clear we were being asked to facilitate a workshop on slut shaming.

As I started to envision the workshop format, something bothered me. I generally teach from the first-person perspective because I think it’s important to emphasize that I am only one person with one set of experiences. Since I was being asked to teach on slut shaming, I had to ponder the term for a second. I had never actually considered myself a slut. In all honesty, it wasn’t a word I had thought about very much.

I said this to Sol and suggested that perhaps I was not the person to teach the workshop. I knew I could organize it in my style of teaching, but I wasn’t sure I felt comfortable teaching about a topic I didn’t feel intimately connected to. As all eyes in the room were on me, I quickly felt into the label “slut.”

Do I identify as a slut?

The conversations Allena Gabosch and I have been having on Sex, Intimacy and Relationship popped into my head and the words “I am definitely an intimacy slut” left my lips. “I do want to connect very deeply with lots of people nearly all the time. I just don’t want to have sex with them.”

On the heels of my assertion Lupe added, “Yeah. See; I just want to have sex with a lot of people. I really don’t want to deal with the intimacy and relationship part.” And I KNOW Allena considers herself a relationship slut. So, I could feel the magic cooking; this was going to happen.

As we further discussed Sol’s hopes for the workshop, I continued to see more ways that we could increase the opportunity for attendees to both see and accept more about themselves, and more readily humanize others. We spoke of cultural definitions, the impact of shame, the evolution of the feminist movement to reclaim the term slut, and so much more. See what I mean? I knew it would be juicy!!

The result is that Allena Gabosch, Lupe Valtierra, and myself will be offering a FREE three-hour workshop. Here are the details:

Reclaiming our Sexual Power
Thursday May 5th from 12:00–3:00 pm
@ South Seattle College
Jerry Brockey Student Center Room B
RSVP to the Gender Equity Center
(206) 934-6801
sscgenderequitycenter@seattlecolleges.edu

If our two-hour meeting is at all indicative of the potency that will be present on May 5th, I’d say you don’t want to miss it!

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